Wedding Update

A few last week updates before the happy day. Wish us good luck with the weather!


The Livestream of the wedding will be broadcast on Dillon’s Twitch account. The name of the account is Dillon_Burke. When the video is livestreaming you may be able to find it by searching for Dillon & Catherine’s Wedding Live stream, but to set everything up ahead of time, search for Dillon_Burke.

The Twitch logo looks like this

In order to view the Livestream, you have two options. One is to download the Twitch application and install it on the device you want to view the wedding on. The second is to go to the main twitch website (click the link or type out or do a search for Twitch in your search engine).

Search inside Twitch for Dillon_Burke (you must include the underscore). From there you should be able to click through to the livestream.

My channel should look a bit like this. Click on the Dillon_Burke by the right hand of the profile picture and that should get you into the menu options that include video.

The video feed should be live from:

  • Saturday 1445 29 Feb New Zealand Time
  • Saturday 1245 29 Feb Sydney Time
  • Saturday 0245 29 Feb Vienna/Munich Time
  • Saturday 0145 29 Feb London UK Time
  • Friday 2045 28 Feb Washington DC Time
  • Friday 1545 28 Feb San Francisco Time.

At the start, there will be a placeholder image. We plan to use the photo from the day we got engaged. It will change to a livestream just before the ceremony gets underway.

We plan to use this as the placeholder image before the live feed starts.

Song Lyrics

As part of the wedding ceremony, during the processional when the bride and groom are walking up in front of everyone, Brian McNamara and Paul Southey will be leading the music and singing for the song below. Catherine and Dillon hope everyone will join to the best of their ability. Copies of the lyrics will be supplied at the event.

Give Yourself to Love

By Kate Wolf

Kind friends all gathered ’round, there’s something I would say:
That what brings us together here has blessed us all today.
Love has made a circle that holds us all inside.
Where strangers are as family, loneliness can’t hide.

You must give yourself to love if love is what you’re after;
Open up your hearts to the tears and laughter
And give yourself to love, give yourself to love.

I’ve walked these mountains in the rain and learned to love the wind;
I’ve been up before the sunrise to watch the day begin.
I’ve always knew I’d find you, though I never did know how;
Like sunshine on a cloudy day stand before me now.

So give yourself to love if love is what you’re after;
Open up your hearts to the tears and laughter
And give yourself to love, give yourself to love.

Love is born in fire; it’s planted like a seed.
Love can’t give you everything, but it gives you what you need.
And love comes when you’re ready, love comes when you’re afraid;
It’ll be your greatest teacher, the best friend you have made.

So give yourself to love if love is what you’re after;
Open up your hearts to the tears and laughter
And give yourself to love, give yourself to love.

Give yourself to love if love is what you’re after;
Open up your hearts to the tears and laughter
And give yourself to love, give yourself to love

The Heart that Loveth Me

David Yardley has generously set original music and his voice to a recording of a medieval poem The Heart that Loveth Me. The Old English lyrics are below, if you click through to the poem link, there is a modern English translation and some notes about the poem. Catherine and Dillon are delighted to have this playing during the signing of the Registry document.

That hart my hart hath in suche grace
That of too hartes one hart make we;
That hart hath brought my hart in case
To loue that hart that lovyth me.

For one the lyke vnto that hart
Never was nor ys nor never shall be,
Nor never lyke cavse set this apart
To love that hart that lovyth me.

Whyche cause gyveth cause to me and myne
To serve that hart of suferente,
And styll to syng this later lyne:
To love that hart [that lovyth me.]

Whatever I say, whatever I syng,
Whatever I do, that hart shall se
That I shall serue with hart lovyng
That lovynge hart [that lovyth me.]

Thys knot thus knyt who shall vntwyne,
Syns we that knyt yt do agre
To lose nor slyp, but both enclyne
To love that hart [that lovyth me?]

Farwell, of hartes that hart most fyne,
Farwell, dere hart, hartly to the,
And kepe this hart of myne for thyne
As hart for hart for lovyng me.

Recessional Music

The Recessional Music is Shireg Shireg by the Hu. The Hu are a band from Mongolia. On the night that Dillon and Catherine met, they talked about Mongolian folk metal bands. For more about the band and their music, go here.


We have had people volunteer to help with set up on the various days of the event. Here are the times when we will need help.

Friday – from 4pm to 8pm. The Wedding Rehearsal is at 4pm. Once that is finished (by 5pm), we will use a couple of hours of daylight to get tents up, before going to 75 Baylands Drive for pizza around 8pm.

Saturday – from 1pm. We need to move 80 chairs and a few tables.

Sunday Afternoon – from 3pm we need to clean up. Catherine has posted on the tournament Facebook page for help with this. Our time on the site finishes at 4pm.

January Wedding Plan Update

RSVP by 31 January 2020

RSVPs are due by the end of January. That is when we have to confirm numbers for food. A quick email, text, or Facebook message is fine – we do not need flowery wording, just a “yes we’re coming.”


Our ceremony will include some music and a song which those present can join in with. There will be printed copies of the lyrics available on the day. Closer to the day there will be another update with more information on the ceremony.


Every Sunday we go to the farmer’s market in Johnsonville, where our shopping for fresh fruit and vegetables starts with a coffee and a chat with Sam, who runs the coffee cart at the market. Sam has agreed to come and provide some espresso coffee and hot chocolate to go along with the cake and champagne that will be served after the ceremony. Once Sam runs out of ingredients he will be done for the day. After Sam leaves, instant coffee and tea will be available from the kitchen in the hall.

Costume Clarification

Dress for the private wedding ceremony on Saturday 29 February is entirely modern. We expect people to wear comfortable clothes to match the weather conditions on the day. For the public tournament on Sunday, medieval costume is optional. We are not expecting people to make or hire costume just for a one-off event.

Facebook Events

We have set up two Facebook events for the Wedding. One is for the private wedding ceremony on the Saturday. The other is for the public tournament on the Sunday. Everyone we have invited to the ceremony on Saturday will get an invite to both events if we have a Facebook connection with them. Our wider group of friends will also be invited to the Sunday event.

Food on Saturday

Our wedding cake is being baked for us by Kirsti Rawstron. It will have two flavours, one of raspberry and rosewater, and one of chocolate.

The dinner is being cooked by Beat Kitchen, using cherry wood collected from our property and dried for a couple of years. The format is a buffet, and there will be no formal seating arrangement.

The Canapes will include:

  • Tomato and feta tart (v)
  • Braised pork meatball slider
  • Beef ham on black crostini with watercress and smoked beetroot mayo
  • Thai corn fritters w cucumber sambal (v)

The main meal has:

  • Slow roasted lamb shoulder
  • Hot smoked salmon
  • Roasted kumara and shallot salad
  • Smoked beetroot and almond salad with yoghurt dressing
  • Marinated tomato and green bean salad with pickled red onion and pomegranate vinaigrette
  • House made focaccia and whipped butter.

The dessert is Brioche donuts with dipping sauces.


As well as the post-ceremony champagne/sparkling grape juice, there will be a limited amount of alcohol available with dinner. This includes some wine, and home brew beer, that are being kindly donated by friends. Non-alcoholic drinks (juice, cola, etc) will be available. In planning our wedding, we have made the decision to prioritize spending on mountains of food, rather than rivers of booze.

Food on Sunday

Alastair Ramsden will be preparing and serving a range of cold and hot finger food throughout the tournament. We are budgeting $10 per head for this, so an RSVP on the Facebook event will help us with our food budget planning.

Camping on site

We have permission to put tents up. The ground is hard, and grunty metal stakes are advised. There are showers and three toilets inside the hall (these are all brand new from recently completed renovations). If you would like to stay at the site in your own tent on Saturday night please let us know.


There is plenty of parking available on Ladbrooke Drive. There are also many parking sp[aces on the gravel drive down past the hall. Please do NOT park in front of the hall – this is where the hearse parks for a Tangi, and we have been asked to make sure no one parks there.

Catherine & Dillon’s Wedding

This is the website for information about the wedding of Ms Catherine Bryony McNamara and Dr Dillon Shiel Burke.

First date at the Steampunk Ball at Dransfield House (February 2016).

29 February 2020

This is the date of the wedding. It is the last Saturday of summer, so we are hopeful that the weather will be nice.

RSVP by 31 January 2020

If you are planning to come to the wedding, please email a short RSVP to Dillon at Children are welcome. Please include any dietary requirements that you have with your RSVP. Questions can also be sent to that address, or you can leave a comment here.

Ngā Hau e Whā o Paparārangi

The wedding will be held on the grounds of a local community hall at: 30 Ladbrooke Drive, Newlands, Wellington. This is close to where we live, and it is where we go to vote on polling days for elections. As well as the whare/hall, the site has a lot of flat open ground (a rarity in Wellington), with excellent views of the Wellington harbour. There is good parking on the road outside the venue. If coming by bus, the Number 52 bus route has a stop about five minutes walk from the site.

The whare.

Timetable of Events

We have the venue from 1pm Friday afternoon through to 4pm Sunday afternoon.

Friday 28th February

Friday will be devoted to setting things up. We have permission to put tents up. Only people helping to set things up need to be at the site on Friday.

Saturday 29th February

Please turn up by 2.30pm. Our master of ceremonies will be Richard Dagger.

The wedding ceremony will start at 3pm. Our celebrant is Miranda Zander.

Cake, coffee and bubbly by 4pm, with short speeches. Our wedding cake is being made by Kirsti Rawstron.

Around 5pm the happy couple and their families will be having professional photographs taken.

Dinner from 6pm. We are expecting dinner to be a BBQ-style buffet, cooked by Beat Kitchen. It will not be a formal seated dinner, more of a grab-and-go with paper plates. Some alcohol and non-alcoholic drinks will be supplied in the evening. The alcohol will mainly be home brew beer and cider. Please advise us in your RSVP of any dietary requirements.

There will be two groups of entertainment in the evening after dinner. Inside the hall there will be board games. Outside in the tents there will be bardic (music, singing, etc).

Rabbit with harp (Wikimedia Commons)

Sunday 1 March

On Sunday we are hosting a medieval-style Tournament of the Killer Rabbit from 10am through to 2pm. All our wedding guests are welcome to attend, and we are also inviting our wider circle of friends to come along to share the occasion. This event will take place in three parts:

  • first, a chivalric tournament fought with rattan weapons
  • second, a boffer tournament fought with padded weapons (children only)
  • third, a rapier tournament fought with steel weapons.

All tournaments will be fought in accordance with the rules of the Society for Creative Anachronism. The number of counted blows will be three!

Light snacks will be available in the morning, finger food like sausage rolls, made by Alistair Ramsden. Children will also get a chance to hit a pinata, which will contain candy. Because we are not sure how many people will be there on the Sunday, we recommend that you bring a picnic lunch with you.

From 2pm we will be packing down and cleaning up.

Immediately after the proposal on the war field at Pennsic (7 August 2018)

Dress Code

The dress code for the wedding day is smart casual. The groom is not wearing a tie, and the bride is not wearing high heels.

Medieval costume is not required for the Sunday (but if you want to wear it, please do).

It is Wellington in late summer, so it could be either very hot, very wet, or very windy. We recommend sunscreen, a hat, and you may want to bring a bottle of water.

The night and place that we met (1 January 2016).


Wedding speeches are to be no longer in length than Abraham Lincoln’s Gettysburg Address (275 words).


There will be two professional photographers on site from Paul Michaels Photography. You are welcome to take your own photographs and post them to social media.

Live stream

We plan to live stream the vows across the internet for friends in distant lands.


There are two motels a short drive or a half hour walk away from the wedding site:


Our house is well set up, so we do not have a traditional wedding registry. Your presence is preferred to presents. What would be really appreciated is some help (see below).

What can we do to help?

We welcome volunteers to help with set up on Friday afternoon and Saturday morning, and for the pack down and clean up on Sunday afternoon.

If you have tents, yurts etc. that could be used for shade and shelter outside the whare, we have permission to put tents up for the weekend.

If you like making home brew, please get in touch with us, so we can make a contribution towards the costs of whatever drink you wish to bring along for the Saturday evening.

Bring a board game or a musical instrument for the Saturday evening, spare boffer weapons four the children on Sunday.

Dillon’s personal arms in the Society for Creative Anachronism.
The arms of Caitríona Ruadh inghean Bhriain
Catherine’s personal arms in the Society for Creative Anachronism.